Rejecting Masturbation. Is This A Good Idea? NO!
When life stresses you out, or you see an attractive person in a tight shirt, or you just get a random boner around midnight and think “Why the hell not?”, masturbating can be a good way to pass the time. Just fire up your laptop, load your favorite video, and squirt a bit of unscented lotion into your hand. Oh, and don’t forget to lock the door! Every human being out there in the world has tried masturbating at least once in their life. If you ever meet anyone who says they have never masturbated, they are lying!
The average person masturbates at least once a week to every two weeks. But some people do it far more and some people don’t do it at all. As far as I know, there are no warnings about masturbating too little. There are only warnings about masturbating too much! Are these statements really true? How much masterbation is too much? We need to know what science says about masterbation. That adage about going blind is for the boomers!
There are a lot of positive, negative, and straight up false notions about masterbation, so we investigated the concept ourselves.
Masterbation: The Oldest Way Humans Pass The Time
As long as human beings have had genitals with pleasurable nerve endings, we have masturbated. There’s no need to deny it or try to rewrite history.
Although it might be strange to think about, we are sure that the previous species before humans, like the neanderthal and the protohuman, enjoyed masturbating as well. There wasn’t anything to do in the jungle or the wilderness besides fish, hunt, gather, make musical instruments with whatever was lying around, cut yourself on a rock and get an infection, or get eaten by the local sabertooth lion.
Ancient Religions Have Their Say
Every religion has something to say about masturbating. Most say that it is an evil practice that separates a human being from their spiritual connection with a higher being. Humans have always kind of seen sexual practices as immoral unless they are under the protection of marriage.
Perhaps smaller religions and paganistic beliefs have a different viewpoint on sex and masturbation. But the four largest religions in the world: Christianity, and we include Catholicism in Christianity, Islam, Hinduism, and Buddhism, say that masturbating is bad or should be restricted to certain reasons.
For example, Islam is against masturbation unless you are tempted to cheat on your wife in marriage.
The Jewish Talmud mode says that masturbating is equivalent to murder. However, that same Talmud says that masturbation is okay as long as the man is doing it to prepare himself to have sex with his wife.
We all know the story of Noah, who built the ark to save his family and a pair of every animal from drowning to death. Well, the Talmud states God punished the entire world for masturbating by flooding the surface of the world with water.
So the Jewish and Christian God does not like masterbating.
Jesus never said anything about masterbation, but lusting after someone is the equivalent of having sex with them.
What Does The Medical World Have To Say About Masterbation?
As you can see, every culture, and every religion has something to say about masturbation. Most of it is pretty negative. But what does science and our doctors have to say about masturbation?
Well, it says the exact opposite! According to the medical world and sexologists, masturbation is healthy and a great way to de-stress from a terrible day, prepare your body for sexual encounters later in the day, and can actually help clear away headaches and some migraines.
Many doctors and sexologists now say that masturbation can be part of your self-care routine. So along with making your favorite drink, putting on a movie that you adore, and treating your hair to a hair mask for 30 minutes, you can add masturbation into your self-care routine.
Also, masturbation can be as important when you are in a relationship as when you are single. Just because you have a sexual partner who has sex with you doesn’t mean you should stop masturbating.
We have included more on this topic near the end of this article.
No Nut November?
The internet has a mind of its own and it has started some crazy trends that have either faded by the wayside, or are still going strong years later. Do you all remember Storm Area 51, an event which was the highlight of 2019?
That couldn’t have happened without the internet. But where in the world do many of these trends start? While there are many massive websites with over 500 million users, there is one site in particular that knows how to form a community, and that is Reddit.
Reddit is a site where all kinds of people from all over the world, but mainly the English-speaking side of the internet, can come together and create communities based on what they love. If even two people like a single subject, then there is a subreddit for it.
A few years ago, someone started a movement on Reddit called No Nut November. For the entire month of November, anyone taking part in No Nut November will not masterbate. They abstain from masturbating, and from watching any type of sexual content on the internet. Most people taking part in No Nut November are single or are in a long distance relationship. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a couple announce they will take part in No Nut November. But not everyone who takes part in No Nut November posts on the subreddit so there could be couples participating.
Most people use Not Nut November to reset their porn habits and re-sensitize their genitals. This makes sense, as we can become desensitized by viewing porn too often or by using our sex toy’s stronger settings.
However, some people can take it a bit too far. They claim they’re able to sleep better, their appetite has improved, and they are more focused at work. Some people make fun of those who go too far and say that they’re only days away from developing telepathy and the power of prophecy.
My Partner Wants Me To Stop Masterbating. Should I Do It?
Masturbating when you are in a relationship is perfectly normal. But is there ever a time when you should stop masturbating? It all depends on how you treat your partner, what gets you off, how often you get off, and how much you and your partner have sex compared to you masturbating in private.
First, if you would rather masturbate than have sex with your partner, then that is an issue. There are times to have sex with your partner and times to masturbate. But if you find yourself far more interested in masturbating than having sex with your partner, that is a sign that something is wrong with your relationship. The issues in your relationship could be your fault, your partner’s fault, or it could be a combination of both. But preferring to masturbate when your partner is available and wants to have sex is not a good sign.
Second, if your partner orders you to stop masturbating because they see it as a sign of cheating, then that’s a red flag. It would be more reasonable if they don’t like the type of porn you consume or if you jerk off to Instagram girls. But if they just hate it when you masturbate, then you need to sit down with your partner and discuss why they feel it is cheating. If they reveal that the reason they hate it when you masturbate is that you are never available for sex when they want sex, then that is another reasonable issue.
How To Improve Your Masterbating Experience
Gentlemen, stop hunching over your desk like a cave troll trying to hide from angry village people. Masturbating should be a fun, positive, and pleasurable experience, so why don’t you treat it like one? Light up some candles, put on some music, dim the lights, and use objects designed for a more pleasurable masturbating experience. That’s what us ladies do! And Ladies, let’s experiment more with different toys and gels that will stimulate our vaginal and clitoral areas in ways we never knew possible!
Below are some of the best tips we could think of to improve your masturbating habits.
Release Your Death Grip
Many men, especially those who are young, have an issue with masturbating. It’s not that they do it too often, although they may enjoy their hand down their pants a bit too much. It’s actually with the strength of their grip when they masturbate. We understand that stimulation is a critical factor in masturbation. If the stimulation is not enough and the pressure of your hand is too soft, you may not orgasm at all. But too much pressure is also an issue. The death grip is an actual problem that many men have to deal with. But why is masterbating with a strong grip a bad masterbation practice?
You can damage the skin on the shaft and head through chafing, redness, and irritation. If you’ve never had chafing on your penis, you are in for a terrible surprise. You know the feeling you get when your lips are completely dry and you need to find a chapstick so you just keep licking your lips. But licking your lips does not help and your lips will only become dryer and dryer? Well, imagine the dryness on your penis, and every time your dick rubs against the fabric of your underwear or your pants, it becomes drier and more chafed.
Also, when a man who uses a death grip during masturbation finally has a sex with a woman, the sex will not be good. Why, you may ask? The grip of a woman’s vaginal walls is far softer than the death grip you have on your dick. A vagina is warmer and wetter, but the head of your penis is used to the stiffness of your hand, so the warm wetness of the vaginal canal will barely stimulate the nerve endings on the tip of your penis.
So how can you stop your death grip and get used to softer methods of masturbation? Well, the first way to end the death grip is to abstain from masturbating for a while. Preventing death grip and desensitization is one of the key reasons so many young men take part in no nut November. Consider it a factory restart for your penis.
You do not have to wait a month if you don’t want to, but waiting longer will re-sensitize your penis.
Waiting longer is better. But if you don’t want to wait that long, then you should at least wait at least one week to 10 days. When you masterbate, go slowly and don’t increase your grip.
Your lady parts need some stimulation as well!
Seems like men have all the fun toys! Not only do they have fleshlights and lotions, they even have a little pill they can ask their doctor for that will give them a sustained erection!
When are we going to get their own medically safe pills that help stimulate their genitals? We demand genital and orgasmic equality!
There may not be any female pleasure pills on the market yet, but there are some gels and lotions that can help improve a woman’s masturbating experience. These gels are called clitoral stimulating gels and they work wonders! Many reviews say the ladies can get off in just a few minutes, and their orgasms are deeper and stronger. Sounds like a good time to me!
Conclusion
Human beings have always masturbated and will always masturbate. There is no stopping us. There are reasons abstaining from masturbating could be positive, but complete and total abstinence from masturbating for the rest of your life is just silly. If you and your partner are having problems with your or their masturbation habits, both of you need to talk to a therapist who can help find a resolution. And never stop experimenting with pills, gels, toys, vibrators, and any other type of toy that comes out. Just don’t overdo it!
