Sex-hygiene: basic rules of hygiene in sex
So, you finally convinced someone to get down and dirty with you and do the old horizontal tango. Congratulations! I hope you have a real fun 20 minutes together. Okay, that sounds salty. I hope you two have a fantastic 45 minutes with some cuddling afterwards.
But before you take off your clothes and reveal your birthday suit to your potential partner, ask yourself this: have you showered today? Were you sweating all day long? Do you feel you need a breath mint for your butthole? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you need to get your hygiene in order before unleashing your stench and grime on your partner.
You need to learn this now: People who do not practice good sexual hygiene do not have repeat sexual partners.
Poor sexual hygiene is unforgivable. Nobody wants to sleep with anyone who smells like they dunk themselves in a vat of old shrimp. BO, bad breath, sweaty underarms and buttocks, and greasy hair is completely unacceptable, in or out of the bedroom.
If you're a young person whose parents hasn't taught them proper sexual hygiene along with birds and the bees, you belong on this page. And if you've been having sex for 10 or 20 years, rereading this article can help refresh your habits.
How to improve your sexual hygiene
The key to improving your sexual hygiene is to improve your overall hygiene. You'd be surprised at how many people don't know proper hygiene practices. Their parents never taught them good hygiene.
If you've never told anyone else about your hygiene practices, then you are missing out on learning what to do and what not to do.
For example, When I showered, I thought the bottom of my feet would become clean because I was standing in water. When I was 15 years old, I told this to my friend and she was shocked that I did not wash the bottom of my feet.
Just because water touches the bottom of my feet does not mean they are clean. Scrubbing skin with soap and water actually cleans it.
Douching
One of the most important lessons women should learn about their body is to never ever start douching.
The main issue with douching is that it doesn't flush bacteria out of your labia and vaginal canal. If you douche regularly, you actually push harmful bacteria back inside your vaginal canal and up towards your cervix.
Regularly flushing your vagina and vaginal canal with douching solution can cause UTIs.
What should women do to keep their vaginas clean if they cannot douche? Well, the vagina can clean itself. You do not have to do anything except flush your thighs and labia with warm water. You can also pour water on your labia and clitoris with a cup of water.
Just be sure to get rid of the sweat and stickiness between your legs. Even if you do not walk around some days, sitting down for long periods of time is enough to cause small droplets of sweat to form around your labia.
Shower power!
Your partner is waiting for you in the other room and you smell like you've been working at the gym for 3 hours. Taking a shower will fix that. A quick 5 minutes shower in which you walk your entire body with some more and help destroy any build up sweat and terrible body odors.
If you have long hair or you have your short hairstyle a certain way, you do not have to get it wet. Purchasing a shower cap should not cost more than $5. When you wear a shower cap, you can stand underneath that water and your hair will not get wet. But if your hair is greasy, wash it.
If you own one or more sex toys, keep your sex toys in an area where no one can touch them and the dog cannot bite them. Always wash your sex toys before and after every sexual encounter. You should also wipe them down with an antibacterial wipe.
After wiping the toys, rinse them off and dry them. Then put them back in their container. Also, make sure the container itself is clean.
Hygiene tips for oral sex
You must brush your teeth every morning and night. You should do this anyway even if you're not coming oral sex. It is slightly revolting how many people do not brush their teeth twice a day.
Before engaging in oral sex, wash your mouth out with water if you can. You will need to flush your mouth out if you eat anything spicy. If you're going down on a woman or giving oral sex to a man, the spices in the last meal you ate can irritate their genitals. They will develop burning or swelling sensations.
If you were getting sick and you have a sore throat, you shouldn't have oral sex with your partner. Who in the world wants someone who has a sore throat to go down on you or to give them head?
Hygiene tips for anal sex
Unlike vaginal intercourse, which does not require much preparation other than putting on a condom or spreading a bit of lube on the man's penis, anal sex takes much more prep work.
Gay men and women who enjoy anal sex know that it is not something that their partners cannot do spontaneously. If it is done in the proper way and with enough lubrication and relaxation, anal sex can be quite enjoyable.
What should you know about hygiene for anal sex?
First, you should know is to never use a douche or an enema before engaging in anal sex. That's probably the first thought you had when thinking of prepping for anal sex, as an enema remove fecal matter from the rectum.
But when it comes to anal sex, an enema will not work. Not only can non-medical enemas irritate the lining of the rectum, the irritation can cause microscopic cuts to form around the rectum. This means the person is more susceptible to getting infections from either regular bowel movements or from anal sex.
Establish a safe word
Safe words are part of sex and they should be emphasized in every type of sexual situation. Most people use NO as their safe word, which is fine. But some people want to explore the limits of NO or take part in a fantasy where they say NO or HELP or STOP as they struggle out of their partners' grasp.
Using NO in that type of situation can be confusing. If NO is the word you plan to use in your darker, kinky fantasy, agree to use a new word in its replacement.
My safety word is pineapple. When my partner hears the word pineapple, he knows that the fantasy is over, and I need him to stop whatever he's doing. The day he does not respect my safe word is the last day I will have sex with him.
Hygiene after sex
You and your partner did the dirty! I hope you two had a wonderful time. Having great sex can elevate your mood, help you reconnect with your partner, and bring out your natural post sex glow. But before you two (or three or four) fall asleep, there are a few practices you all need to do to stay fresh.
Wipe yourself down if you can't shower
If you can't shower or the hot water is not working in your apartment, wash your private parts with a wet cloth and some soap. Have you ever heard of a hobo bath? It involves washing your face, armpits, and genitals, and ass.
Take a hobo bath to stay fresh.
Anal sex
When you are done having anal sex, do not keep your appendage inside of your partner. Although it may feel good, there is a risk leaving in an appendage or any other anal toy for a prolonged period inside the anal cavity. It can cause tearing or hemorrhoids in or around the rectum.
After removing your appendage or the anal toy, throw away any condoms or any barriers and protectants. Do not use them over again. Place the anal toys in the sink or bathtub with hot water and soap.
If you cannot muster the energy to wash your anal toys after anal sex, then place them on the towel somewhere where nothing one can touch them.
Do not place them on your nightstand and don't roll them under the bed.
The person who had their penis inside their partner's anal canal needs to wash their penis with soap and water. Do not wait; do it right after having sex.
All of this prep work is one of the biggest factors why not many people engage in anal sex regularly. But for those who love anal sex and can't get enough, all of this prep and post work is worth it.
The person who has toys inside of their anal canal must wash around their rectum. A penis or insertable sex toys can spread bacteria on the partner's genitals. Flushing the area around and inside the rectum can help prevent infection.
If a woman engages in anal sex and is the partner that is penetrated, they must wash their labia, vulva, clitoris, and surrounding thigh area.
If a man engages in anal sex and is the partner that is penetrated, they must watch their rectum, balls, penis, shaft and head, and surrounding thigh area.
To make the post anal work easier, just take a shower when you're done and take your anal toys into the shower with you.
You were able to convince someone to come back to your place, and it's dirty! You only have 15 minutes! What do you do?
Ask your potential partner if they would like to shower or freshen up a bit. Hopefully, your bathroom is not dirty. If both your bathroom and your bedroom are dirty, you should have stayed home and cleaned your house instead of looking for strange.
Pick up everything from the floor and shove it into your closet. You don't want them to trip over anything while they're taking off their clothes. Remove any plates or cups.
If you have an electric kettle, turn it on and heat some water. Your partner might want a hot beverage after doing the deed.
Grab some fresh sheets and change the bedding. What if the unfitted sheet is the only bedding that is clean? Rip off the dirty fitted sheet on the bed and replace it with the unfitted sheet. A clean unfitted sheet is always better than a dirty fitted sheet.
Change the pillowcases on your pillows. Also, when you can remember, take your pillows to the laundromat to get washed. You know. I can't remember the last time I washed my pillows. It looks like it's time!
If the night is not too hot or cold, open the windows and let some fresh air in.
If you showered in the morning, then you might not need to take another shower before having sex. But if you showered over 24 hours ago, then hop in the shower! Ask your partner if they would like to join you in the shower. The fun can start in the shower and then continue into the bedroom.
Conclusion
Practicing proper sexual hygiene habits is a great way to let your partner know that you are a trustworthy person who cares about your and their sexual and physical health. If you've been sweating all day, pop in the shower before going out and looking for a one-night stand. Always keep lube on hand in case you and your partner need some extra lubrication. Do not force anything into any orifice or you could end up tearing your person's skin and hurting the person. And no matter who you were sleeping with, always have a safe so that you know when to stop or when they are uncomfortable. Sex should always be about your partner's comfort.
