80/20 rule and dating economy in 2020

When men and women look forward to their next love, we always think of them as attractive. It is not shallow to feel that way. It is just natural to want to have a handsome beau. Although what counts as attractive changes in each country and part of the world, it only really changes slightly. There's a reason why sexy men are on the cover of erotic novels, and men all over the globe have pictures of bikini-clad women on calendars. They're attractive, and we want to look at them. But now we must face another truth, which is that not all people are physically attractive. This also is not shallow to say. It's just natural. Some people are more beautiful than others, and some people are very much more attractive than others. But what are we to do in the dating world where attractive people want to be with other attractive people and unattractive people want to be with attractive people? What does this mean for dating unattractive women and men? This is what columnist Bradford Tuckfield covers in his article "Attraction Inequality and the Dating Economy."

So there are not enough attractive people for everyone, or what?

Tuckfield brings up something called the 80/20 rule? You may have heard of this rule, which is also called Pareto's principle. This principle is defined as only 20% of the work that will contribute to 80% of the project. But he uses it differently here.

In the world of dating and attractiveness, for women, the top 78% of attractive women are competing for the top 20% of handsome men. And for men, about 80% of men are competing for the bottom 22% of women.

Let's break down what she tweeted even more. The bottom 80% of men in attraction level are competing for the bottom 20% of women in attraction level. The top 80% of women will not consider them, so that's why they are still competing for only the bottom 20%. And the top 80% of attractive women are competing for the top 20% of handsome men.

This means that most women think most men are unattractive, and some men are attractive. By stark contrast, it means that most men consider most women to be attractive and some women to be unattractive.

So that means in the dating world, most unattractive men and some unattractive women will wind up high and dry and with no love at all. This will also mean that the top 20% of men will have their pick of the female flock. This is where our society should become polygynist. Polygyny societies are like gorillas’ societies, where there are many women and a few extremely strong and virile males.

The symbolism of the ugly and the beautiful

If the numbers in the tweet can be applied to other parts of society, then now we know why there are so many stories about a beautiful woman falling in love with an ugly man. The ugly man never changes his face throughout the story, but it is a beautiful woman's love (it's always a beautiful woman, never an ugly one) that frees his soul and transforms him into something better. However, the story is also made so that the beautiful woman is praised and thought of as a kind person because she is beautiful, but she decided to love an ugly person. It means that attractive people also are considered to be selfless if they decide to be with someone who is not their attractive level.

Also, the ugly man usually has more than his looks. In beauty and the Beast, Beast was a beast, but he was also a wealthy prince with a full castle. Belle was just beautiful. Well, and she was kind too.

Of course, all of these assumptions and all of these Stevens are based on two things. First, how attractive a person is. Yes, attractiveness is an important feature in a person, but it is not everything. There are many people who all they are is attractive. Everyone knows that if you base who are date solely on their attractiveness level, you're going to have a tough dating life.

Perhaps, as a society we care too much about attractiveness. After all, an attractive person has done nothing to be attractive. Their beautiful skin and high cheekbones are just well-placed genetics. But human beings are easily influenced by what they see when we see a pair of big blue or brown eyes and a chiseled chin, all politeness, and fairness go out the window for some people.

The second problem with his attractiveness inequality theory is he uses statistics from two dating websites that were built to find hookups. Hookup sites are built so users can find someone hot to have sex with. These sites certainly aren't going to tell us anything new about human sexuality. Wow, people like to have sex with attractive people. Absolutely amazing research, where is your Nobel Prize already?

One thing I will give this article is that many men online complain that it is tough for any man who is not extremely attractive to get a message from a woman. This complaint is now founded and solidified by the data in the tweet.

Conclusion

Like I have said before, it is no surprise that people like attractive people. Numerous studies are showing how both are attractive and attractive people regarded by people and by society. Attractive people are thought of as better skilled when they're not, friendlier when they're not, less likely to lie when they do, more trustworthy even if they're not, and even more capable at their job even if they're not. People are even more likely to be kinder to each other people and help them out if they need it.

But we all can't be attractive, unfortunately. But when it comes to dating sites, you can't let statistics and numbers stop you. If you are an unattractive man, do your best to look more attractive. Change your picture, pick new clothes, and try harder with better messages and opening lines. If you're a woman, try to expand your horizons a bit and see what you have been missing in that bottom 80% of men you have been ignoring.