Dildo - The Gadget For Demanding Women
For most of history, we humans have dedicated time and energy to searching and inventing ways to pleasure ourselves. From cattail reeds to smooth rocks, hardened clay molds, pottery, and beads, women have experimented with many objects, toys, tools, and textures in order to learn how to pleasure themselves and achieve an almighty orgasm. Men have also found new ways to pleasure themselves, but it’s always been easier for men to have an orgasm. Many women in history have never had an orgasm.
We women living today are truly blessed to live in this age. Not only do we have more rights than ever before, we now have different gadgets and toys designed to pleasure ourselves.
Plus, the church does not regulate every single part of our lives, so women are not seen as wanton devil-controlled whores for prioritizing our pleasure.
Well, in some parts of the world, we are still regarded as lowly second-class citizens. And society still thinks male pleasure is more important than female pleasure…..
Well, at least we can do what we want in private...
But enough about the state of women in the world! Let’s talk about vibrators, anal beads, clitoral stimulators, and more! There is a whole industry dedicated to creating sex toys that pleasure men and women and all those outside and in between the gender binary. But the greatest and most popular of all sex toys is the dildo.
Dildos in History
As long as humans have had pleasurable nerve endings around their genitals, we have sought ways to stimulate those nerves for our own big endings.
Neanderthal fun time
The first dildo was created by a caveman and cavewoman. While walking along the shores of a mighty river or a beach, they must have come across a long, smooth-looking stone. With some polishing, the cave person would have used the stone as we use a regular dildo today.
But they wouldn’t have been able to use their dildo stones as vigorously as we use our dildos, as they did not have any type of lubrication. And as any woman can tell you, water is not a substitute for lube.
The first known dildo dates back to 28,000 years ago, and archeologists discovered it in a cave in the middle of Germany. It was a smooth, narrow stone shaped like a man’s penis.
Here Comes Ancient Greece
As with many of our modern sexual practices, inclinations, and beliefs, dildos have their roots in ancient Greek history. The Greeks used an object called an olisbos. The olisbos were made of leather or clay and sometimes wood.
The person who made the olisbos would have to sand the wood until it was smooth. The vaginal canal is the last place a woman wants to have a splinter!
The olisbos wasn’t a secret object that Greek women had to hide underneath their mattresses and only bring it out when their husbands were out of the home. Because there were so many wars around the Greek peninsula, it was common for men to be gone for months or even years at a time.
Ancient Greek men used to give these sex toys to their wives before they left for war.
Now why in the world would they do that?
It was believed that women would go crazy and develop hysteria if they didn’t have men to keep them in charge or get them pregnant. So the olisbos was used as a toy so that the female body would think it was having sex and get pregnant. This would keep the woman from going crazy.
Virtually every culture and society had some types of sex toy. Humans want to pleasure themselves and they’re going to do it no matter where they are and what religion they practice.
There is a story that says Cleopatra once filled a thin gourd with bees. Because bees fly by flapping their wings, their flapping wings would cause the gourd to vibrate, so she would have created the first vibrator.
But that story makes little sense. If you stuff a bunch of bees inside of a gourd, they won’t fly around and hit each other. The bees would just land inside the gourd and there wouldn't be any vibration.
Europe Was Controlled By Prudes
From the Victorian era to the Renaissance of Italy and the Medieval Times of Arabia and Europe, humans have always invented dildos so they can have sexual pleasure without needing another person to help them.
However, sometimes it would get out of hand. Since women were able to pleasure themselves without needing a man, some countries developed laws against women purchasing dildos or any other phallic sex toys.
For example, a man named John Wilmot, who lived in England and was the Earl of Rochester, wrote a poem which talked about how the women of England no longer need to have sex with men because they were too busy having sex with dildos.
The poem was so influential that the English government banned women from purchasing dildos. Instead of banning English women from purchasing dildos, the men should have improved their sexual abilities!
So Many Dildos!
If you are a woman who’s never used it dildo in her life or it’s been a while since you last used one, it looks like it’s time for you to go shopping! Luckily, you don’t have to walk to some dirty CD sex shop and ignore the incessant stairs of the gangly looking cashier. You can stay in your pajamas and shop for a dildo right in the comfort of your own home!
But there are so many varieties of dildos! It's difficult to purchase one. Why are there so many dildos and what are their secondary purposes? No need to do any research because we did it for you! Here’s what you need to know about purchasing a dildo:
First, consider the material you want your new dildo to be. Rubber, silicon, and glass are common material types. Not only do these materials feel great with lubrication, they’re easy to clean. Just a little of dish soap and water and you can wipe off all the liquids and juices quickly and easily.
Second, consider what you would like the dildo to do. Would you buy a dildo designed for your anal cavity, or would you like to stimulate your g-spot? There are also double-sided dildos you and your partner can both use at the same time.
For a little extra stimulation, you can buy a vibrating dildo and enjoy yourself all night long!
How Women Today Use Dildos To Empower Their Lives And Their Sexualities
Women have embraced dildos and they are not turning back. A study was conducted in 2017 and it found half of all women in the United States had sexual activities involving a vibrator or a dildo at least once in their lives. Of those women, 20% used a dildo or vibrator at least once in the past month.
There is a significant amount of women who actively use dildos and dildo vibrators as part of their normal sexual practices. Women who have sex with other women use dildos and vibrators 86% of the time. However straight women use sex toys 53% of the time.
To absolutely no one's surprise, men do not like it when women use vibrators. The only men who actually have to fear being replaced by dildo or a vibrating daughter are men who bring nothing to the relationship.
So if you’re a loving partner who regularly cooks and cleans, takes their woman out on dates, and takes care of her needs, then you definitely won’t be replaced by a vibrator!
However, if you can’t remember the last time you helped your girlfriend or wife with the laundry, or with cooking, or it has been a while since you treated her to her favorite restaurant, she might be better off with her phallic friend she keeps tucked away in her nightstand than with you.
Another study revealed that women who use regular dildos or vibrating dildos as part of their normal sexual routine have better sexual encounters and a higher sexual satisfaction rate.
How can women use dildos to enhance their sexual pleasure?
Women have used dildos and other sexual toys to empower their sexualities. If you go to the right areas of the internet, women will gladly tell others when, where, and why they use their dildos.
Wham, bam, thank you dildo!
If they need a quickie, they will use a dildo and bypass all the foreplay. When the mood strikes them, they don’t want to find a man who probably needs direction to get them off in bed. They just want to have an orgasm and get on with their day. By using their dildo, they can skip all the wining and dining and have an orgasm in 20 minutes or less.
The guilt keeps them from orgasming
Some women take a long time to have an orgasm and they feel guilty about making their partners take part in sex when they’ve already achieved their orgasm. But when they use the dildo on themselves, they can go as long as they want and at the pace they like without the guilt.
The men they sleep with don’t know how to give them orgasms.
This is a tale as old as time for most women. Many men don’t know what they’re doing when they’re in bed with a woman. These men just focus on their orgasms.
But by buying a woman a dildo, they don’t have to deal with a selfish man’s needs. When they trade out a man for a dildo, it practically guarantees them an orgasm.
They don’t have time for a relationship or even friends with benefits.
The grind is part of modern life and many women, as well as men, feel as if they have no time for romantic exploits or even a one-night stand. Most people in this situation either arrange a friend with benefits situation with a coworker or someone in their building that has the same schedule as them, or buy sex toys.
Proper hygiene when using a dildo
Whether you are purchasing your first dildo or 10th, it’s always good to review and relearn proper dildo hygiene. You do not want an infection ruining your sexy fun time.
Wash and rinse it often
Always make sure the doodle is clean before you play with it. Even if you just bought it from the store and it is still in its packaging, wash it with soap and warm water before your first sexual session with your new dildo.
When you are done using your dildo, wash it right away. But if you don’t have the energy to get up and wash your dildo, or you just want to roll over and go to sleep, place the dildo somewhere where it will not touch anything. This is why it’s important to have a nightstand with two or three drawers. You can place your dirty dildo in the bottom drawer on top of a towel.
When you wake up in the morning or in an hour, wash your dildo. If you want to use a dildo for multiple sexual sessions, have a clean towel ready to cover it and keep germs and dust from sticking to it.
Also, if you’re going to use your dildo for back-to-back orgasms, then it’s a good idea to rinse it between sessions.
Before you place the dildo inside your anal or vaginal canal, make sure it is soaked in lubrication. And we mean lube as in sexual lubrication gel or KY Jelly.
Please do not use olive oil or canola oil or coconut oil. Just because we eat some of these ingredients does not mean they should be used inside of our bodies. Any drugstore, CVS, Walgreens, Rite aid, Duane Reade, has KY Jelly or sex lubrication jelly. Lubes are also available on Amazon, Walmart.com target.com and any other online retailer.
When using your dildo, never place it in your anus and then in your vagina or mouth. If you want to use your dildo on multiple orifices, use it on your mouth first and then your vagina, and then your anus. If you use your dildo in your anus and then put it in your vagina, you could end up with a terrible infection.
