Where have all the sex parties gone?
For the billions of people who engaged in sex at least once a week, this activity will always be a two-person event. While there is nothing wrong with having a single partner in your bed, one is never enough for some people. Every year, millions of patient people take their time to search for the right group or club to have a sex party that involves 3 to 10 people or even more. There's always room for another excited and adventurous individual as long as there is enough space on the bed. Come whenever you like, the group meetings, sex parties, orgies, but they have been happening since the dawn of time, and they will keep on happening until there's only two people left on Earth.
For thousands of years before the invention of the internet, people gathered and met up with members of secret sex parties the old-fashioned way by recruiting people who can be trusted from their social circles. Secrecy and trust are how sex parties used to grow organically. Still, now, people can meet up with one or more interested parties and have group sex more often than ever before. But trusted members of a sexual group can research a new member to make sure they are safe to play with and include in their sexual activities. They can also interview any newcomers over video chat and explain the basics like consent and privacy. But are sex clubs, sex parties, and orgies able to survive in the pandemic and after?
The sexual world before 2020
Picture this: It is 2019, the world is gearing up for the final season of Game of Thrones, everyone is touching door handles and knobs and then touching their face without a care in the world, and people all over different cities across the United States and the world are spending their days meeting up with each other and engaging in some very naughty activities with at least two to 10+ other people. That was the world in 2019 before the pandemic ruined everything we've ever known and took away our ability to go outside and gather in groups. People of all races, sexualities, and identities exchange information and meet each other online, and then promptly when meetings meet in real life. There's no part of society that was not affected by the pandemic, including sex clubs, swinger clubs, and orgies.
When the average person who has never engaged in sex beyond a twosome or threesome pictures what they think an orgy or sex parties is like, they picture anonymous bodies writhing in pleasure while maintaining anonymity with the use of costumes and mask. While that does sound titillating, emotionless, detached sex is not what these parties are about.
Since this is a private activity, many people who attend such clubs often make friends and find sexual partners and romantic partners within that setting. They seek fun and adventure, but they also prioritize sexual safety and trust. Everyone is vetted before they join, so predators cannot take advantage of these clubs.
Sex parties during the pandemic
Like everything else, the pandemic forced sex parties to social distance, and all events and parties moved online. All gatherings, meetups, celebrations had to stop because of quarantine. For a short time, groups completely paused admitting any newcomers, and there were no Zoom meetings or Zoom sex groups.
Like millions of other people across the country, sex groups and clubs thought that the quarantine was only supposed to be two weeks, maybe a month. No one thought that it was going to be a full year later that we would still be trying to keep the very first wave of coronavirus under control. But as the months dragged on and coronavirus raged throughout the country, people began to realize that there would not be mass gatherings for a long time.
While many people resigned themselves to sitting in their home and self-quarantine the need to protect themselves and their loved ones from the virus, for a few people, staying at home and keeping their bodies behind a zoom-enabled camera just wasn't enough. So outside of the official chat rooms and websites of their favorite sex clubs, members begin to organize their own sex parties, which would be hosted at someone's private home or apartment. You would think that a pandemic caused by a virus that spreads itself through close contact and touch would deter these people from meeting face-to-face, but apparently, it did not. One quick Google search will bring up news stories about police busting illegal sex parties hosted during the pandemic.
Organizing private sex parties during a pandemic is terrible for two reasons. The phrase reason is that you could catch coronavirus from any one of the people in the party. The average length of time it takes for a person with coronavirus to show symptoms is about ten days. So if 20 people are attending a secret sex party, at least one of those people could very much have undetected coronavirus.
The second reason why organizing a sex party during the pandemic is the bad idea is that if the police bust your party, you will then be arrested and then sent to jail. Jail is not a place known for its cleanliness. Thousands and thousands of coronavirus cases are due to people being in close quarters because they are in jail.
The mental toll of online sex parties
Surprisingly, the people who regularly engaged in sex parties and orgies did not suddenly drop all of their friends and stop contacting those they play with when the pandemic first started. In fact, many people doubled down and started contacting their friends more often. At first, they contacted their sexual partners to make sure that they were okay and check up on them every once. If they did have coronavirus, friends, and members sent thoughts and kind words. It just goes to show that no matter what kind of naughty behavior you are engaged in, it does not mean that you are a selfish or bad person.
One major issue that the pandemic forces out into the open is loneliness and depression. Without the ability to gather with our friends and loved ones, many people became isolated and fell into depression. Even as dependent rages on more than a year later, depression has seeped into their minds and made a home for itself in their soul. The need for online therapists has grown exponentially, and it does not look like these people are going to get better anytime soon.
The same thing happened to the many people who regularly engage in orgies and now could no longer meet with their naughty friends. But instead of dealing with it all by themselves, the people who engage in orgies made some calls and Skype calls to their friends on a daily or weekly basis. Although it was always possible for the call to end in sex, it wasn't always a requirement.
So is adding new people on hold?
You may think that because sex parties in orgies can no longer meet face-to-face, they're no longer adding new people to their group. But this is not true. There are quite a number of sex groups and clubs admitting first-time members and allowing them to observe Zoom parties. While zoom orgies pale in comparison to face-to-face orgies and will not be as exciting to new potential members, allowing first-timers to observe the zoom sex party has a major benefit. It allows the current members of the sexual group to observe newcomers from a safe and respectful distance. If the members decide that they don't like how a newcomer is acting or are worried that they will not adhere to their partner's safeword, they can take them out of the group with little fuss. The newcomer for they did not like never had the ability to physically hurt anyone. This precaution makes for a safer and more consensual environment.
Did sex parties happen over zoom?
A month or two after the march quarantine first began, many people who had gone to sex parties in real life had grown tired of waiting for people to believe that a virus was running rampant all over the country and quarantine themselves to slow the spread. So, they begin to organize online sex parties using the video tool Zoom. So does that mean that sex parties are okay under the zoom terms of service? Absolutely not. As the use of Zoom skyrocketed from nearly no one to practice the entire country and multiple countries around the world, Zoom had to crack down on many different groups who were using the service to organize online orgies.
Are there any Zoom alternatives?
After zoom began to ban people from engaging in online sex parties, several video-hosting software began to pop up in an effort to take zoom's place. But none were as popular or had the software and infrastructure necessary to handle many people at one time. Even now, Zoom is still the preferred video host for any type of online sexual encounter.
Adult Chat Finder was one of the first dating sites to offer video chat and then came Feeld, which specialized in remote threesomes, and regularly hosted remote video parties with up to 40 people.
But some of these alternatives don't have the technology to support as many people as Zoom did, so some people are still using Zoom to organize and host sex parties, but they have to do it secretly. This means that they must host parties under different names and hosts, and no one can send text messages that might tip-off Zoom moderators to what is going on in their private party.
What will happen after the pandemic is over?
Now that there are several vaccines being distributed across different first-world countries, it is only a matter of time before the self-quarantine measure is finally removed and people can gather together again. This brings a new concern: who has the vaccine, and should they provide evidence that they took it? It is a matter of safety and protecting your health, as a vaccine is not 100% protected against coronavirus. It is just supposed to help your immune system fight it off in a more efficient way. So people who have the vaccine can still contract the virus. Well, most sex parties require people to get an STD test before they engage in physical activity, so it stands to reason that they would also request a covid-19 test to make sure no one is sick before they attend the meeting. Hopefully, everyone will understand the extra precautions and comply.
What is the future of sex parties?
Since many sex clubs have allowed new members to watch or participate in remote events, there might be a boom in sex club memberships once they are allowed to open for face-to-face meetings once again. So there may be more people exploring their naughtier sides. Some places are already open, and they are acquiring temperature checks, and everyone must use hand sanitizer before entering the premises.
Conclusion
The pandemic has shown us as the most important things that humans need in their lives, besides food and shelter, are relationships and human connection. When the pandemic first hit, It was very surprising to learn that the various members of sex parties would stay in touch with each other and make sure that everyone is doing well. If someone contracted the virus or got sick another way, they would send well wishes and provide any help that they could. Most people would not expect such a community from a group like this, but it just goes to show that any community that is tight-knit and engages in activities that require the utmost trust in each other and have each other's backs when the going gets tough. So if you ever decide to join a sex club, know that you were joining more than just a club, you're joining a community.